I was going to delete my blog Because I can….

I have not been writing enough for myself lately. No posts, just answering comments, giving my thoughts to what other people are saying. It allows me a voice, but it isn’t the same as writing for myself and telling my own stories. I have been very down on myself as of late. I have not been positive and I have not been doing what I need to do in order to become more positive. My blog is “Because I can” for a reason. A reason that I was allowing myself to forget. I was forgetting that I can. 

I read this story tonight and it has inspired me to continue with trying to write, to blog and learn. 


I am going to write a mission statement of sorts to myself. it is a reaffirmation and statement of what I believe. It is what I will continue to live by. No matter what anyone says.

What happened in my life was terrible. There are scars, there is still pain. But, I am not going to list everything that happened to me. I will not continually revisit it without purpose. When I do talk about it, I will be using my experiences to help others to find their strength. To find options and to find a way to get out of the darkness. I want to be able to show others going through similar experiences that they can come out the other side and not just survive, but be happy and survive. What has having those awful things happen to me done for me? It has taught me compassion for another. It has taught me to be non-judgmental. I will not give in to fear. I can be strong and become stronger. 

I will not give in to anger and fear. I have been allowing fear and anger of what is happening in the world, and what some people have said to me to cloud my judgement and my faith. When you  become angry and you give in to fear, it can lead to irrational thought. When you become irrational you cannot see the path. You cannot hear the truth. It blinds you to your faith. Faith leads you from fear and helps you to find the path and allows you to see more than what you think possible. 

I will be compassionate. I would prefer to err on the side of compassion and not have to worry about answering to God as to why I would turn my back on my brothers and sisters. 

I believe in the right of all people to love whom they choose. As long as they are an adult of legal age and consensual.

I believe in allowing the existence of all faiths as long as they do not interfere with the practice of another’s faith or harm another person. I have to admit that I am conflicted with this one as I do not believe that Sharia law is a humane practice and that the violence perpetrated against women in the name of honor (which is not honorable at all) gives me some issues. 

I happen to believe in the premise of the Constitution of the United States and it’s original intention. We have a great country. Even with all our problems. We the people of this country hold so much power in our hands. We can control our own destinies if we would just think, not be so reactionary and really value the freedoms that we have. We can speak, we can write, we can protest-peacefully. There are so many countries where that is not possible. 

I really believe we need a ” Celebrate Humanity Month”. This month will celebrate the diverse nature of humanity. We should have block parties and discussions and make opportunities to mend fences with our neighbors. There needs to be open discussions on race and how to improve relations between all the races that live in this country. Improved education in the schools that really stress the accomplishments of all races in the development of inventions and in the creation of this country. Our country was founded on the blood of the Native Americans, white slavery, black slavery, Asian slavery. There is no getting around that. What we can do is move past it and realize that while it matters how we got here, it matters even more where we are going. And where we end up is up to all of us. 

I believe in the right to bear arms. While it has been said that letting everyone have a gun is tantamount to creating an old west scenario, that is just not the truth. Of course there needs to be education, regulation and punishment for the breaking of the rules. Guns don’t kill people, people kill people. “If they didn’t have a gun, they wouldn’t have killed someone” is an argument I have heard before. People killed each other before there were guns, they will continue to do so with or without them. I prefer to be able to defend myself if someone threatens me or my family. 

I realize as I am typing this, there is so much I believe, so much I want to talk about in my life. Too much to write about now.

I will speak my mind, write my stories and poems, post my photographs. Yes, I am going to do that. 





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Retired Navy Cardiovascular Technician/Respiratory Therapist. Wife, mother, grandmother.

36 thoughts on “I was going to delete my blog Because I can….”

  1. Amen! Don’t you dare “even though you can”, you hang onto the victory! You help others and hear others and have compassion on others. If you choose to close that door then your scars, your pain, your tears were for nothing. Open the curtains to the light of Christ and share your testimony to others and allow The Lord to use you for His Glory and that will help others and continue to heal you! Christ gave you the victory so claim it and share it! Praise God little sister!

  2. I’m glad you are going to keep blogging!! It seems like there is so much for you to write about 🙂 I look forward to reading about it!

  3. Hi 🙂
    all I can say is good for you 🙂 It’s your blog to write and express you; whatever you want to write, and however you want to write it. I think the best thing anyone can give to others, is being themselves; good on you for doing that 😀

      1. You’re welcome 🙂
        sometimes it’s good to walk away for awhile, do some other stuff, that you really like; it feeds your heart;
        and then….
        the stones blocking the path roll out the way and you can speak how it is for you;
        and feel better for it 😀

  4. Glad you didn’t! Here’s a funny thing–I’m doing a parallel thought process. I, too, shall continue to post. If nothing else we need to do this for ourselves! *hugs* to you!!!

  5. I’m glad you didn’t delete your blog! If you ever need time to recuperate then do so, but please don’t stop inspiring others through your blog.

  6. I’m glad you have chosen not to quit. We need people in this world that are willing to share encouragement and acceptance….and avoid judgement! Thanks for being the writer you are!

  7. Don’t feel pressured to write regularly or frequently. Your posts are meaty, and worth the wait. But even your comments are meaningful. Your comment on my Game of Thrones review is one of my favorites, and I enjoyed our exchange about it. I want you to know that I finished book 4, and I know who the third dragon is. Rhaegar’s son survived. The child that was killed was a decoy.

  8. I enjoy your blog very much, Pavanneh. You are right – there is so much to write about. I have read many wonderful stories in the blogs I follow as well as seen sights from around the world – including your great photos!

    Thanks so much for visiting my blog and commenting. Your words are always much appreciated. It takes time to write a post and also read posts. I am trying to set aside some time for both. 😊

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