Really liked this. Reblogged on Because I can.
Okay…I am cheating. I was going to go through each line and just put my own words, but the problem is that Sarah said it so well and there isn’t much that I don’t believe in as she does. We are individuals, we are not the same people, but as she says there are “core ideals, principles, preferences and opinions that are just solid within us.” I personally think that is great! There are people that would say, “But what about individuality and aren’t you just group thinking?” Nope! These are values I hold dear to me. I just happen to share the same values as someone else. I am just going to go through and add my own comments though, just to make sure I get the chance to express my individuality. 😀
The original post was on Sarah Lopez’s Blog. I tried to past a link, but it didn’t work.
There are so many things to believe in and it is a list that likely changes or evolves over time as we evolve as people. That being said there are those core ideals, principles, preferences and opinions that are just solid within us. I, myself believe:
-in family, big family and all the chaos that comes with it
(Absolutely agree with this. I love my family very much and I get sad when I don’t have them around. I will have time for quiet when I am dead.)
-in friends because family is not always just about blood
(I have some wonderful friends that I feel are as good as family. And sometimes they have been better than family.)
-the idea that everything truly does happen for a reason but the reason isn’t usually clear right away
(I have experienced this for my self so many times in my life. I have seen from my own experiences this to be true.)
-in laughing as much as you can, it’s good for the soul
(I would rather laugh than cry. And it can actually help you to feel empowered in a bad situation if you can just laugh, not like a maniac or something, but laugh at just one piece of the irony that is life to clear the way for thought)
-being rude as if you have no concept of manners is not ok and it really pisses me off
(What has happened to common civility? I try to teach my grandchildren to have manners. I tell them it isn’t even so much for the other person as for yourself. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and say “At least I know I treated someone with respect and dignity and that is what matters most is that I know I am that kind of person.)
-in using common sense and making an effort to not be an idiot
(Ha..that can be hard to do. I try. I have been told that I have great common sense, though I wonder where it goes from time to time.)
-alcohol is lovely and amazing when used correctly
(Hard Cider in the fall and yummy fruity drinks in the summer. Luckily I don’t really like the taste of alcohol so it is easy for me to use sparingly.)
-rainy, cloudy days and fall are Mother Nature’s way of showing us she is the shit and that the world always has beauty somewhere
(Fall, Autumn is my favorite time of year. Most see it as a season of ending. I see it as a season of transition that puts on one of the best shows on Earth.)
-you can never stop learning or stop growing as a person
(I think people truly grow old when they stop trying to grow and learn. You can always learn and explore no matter what your age. My grandmother never stopped learning until she died at 92.)
-being open minded and non-judgmental opens the world up and makes it a more interesting place
(Being non-judgmental is a difficult thing to do for anyone. There is always a temptation to judge. It helps people feel superior and secure in the thought that what they think and believe is right. How do you know when it is wrong? When it hurts someone else, tears down their happiness and sense of self and makes your soul cringe because inside you know you were wrong. What is the best way to avoid that feeling? Remember love and compassion are more important than judgement.)
-photography and the idea that you can capture a beautiful moment in time forever is one of life’s most amazing aspects
(I thank God that he gave the inspiration for the invention of the camera. One of the best inventions ever.)
-it’s ok to be opinionated
(I can agree with this somewhat, but there are dangers in being so opinionated that you don’t listen to reason or open your mind to other possibilities. However, could you imagine how boring it would be if we all just agreed on everything and no one was allowed or wanted to have an opinion of their own?)
-loyalty and integrity are top qualities in a decent human being
(Loyalty and Integrity are truly top qualities in a decent human being, as long as they do not blind the person to doing things that hurt others. But, I suppose your level of integrity may not be up too high if you were so loyal that you were blind to or willing to do bad things for someone.”
-a witty, sarcastic sense of humor is key to survival
(Yes. Can’t say much other than YES!)
-in having a big heart and helping others
(People are so afraid at times to put themselves out there to trust and help others. When they do this they lose out on so many opportunities to grow into someone amazing.)
-with age comes a sense of comfort with one’s self
(I hope that is true. Still working on that one.)
-in finding your own personal, spiritual path to walk through life not someone else’s
(Each individual in this life ultimately will find they walk their path alone. They will have company, they will see other paths and groups of people to walk a path with, but ultimately their own personal journey is the one that emerges.)
-in forgiveness, grudges and regret are poisonous to the soul
(I will never say that forgiving someone is easy. You do not have to forget what they did and in some cases it is impossible to forget what someone has done to you. However, forgiving someone is an absolute necessity. Not only for your own soul, but perhaps theirs as well.)
-everything hard I have had to go through has made me strong
(In the last few years I have come to realize that I cannot change a single thing in my past or perhaps one or two, but not all the bad things. I would not be who I am today and I am really starting to like that person.)
-mistakes are inevitable, its human nature, but you should learn from them and use them to help you grow
(Why is it so hard for us as human beings to realize that no one is perfect? That humans are faulty, they make mistakes. You can demand perfection and you can try for perfection from yourself and others. Just don’t expect it. When it happens it will be even more special because of it.”
-karma fully exists and works in mysterious ways
(What goes around comes around.)
-brownies are the best chocolate product ever made
(Hmmmm..nah..truffles and chocolate covered cherries. Cella cherries, not the milky inside kind.)
-that gentlemen are a dying breed and people with sons need to take care to raise boys with the notion of being a gentlemen (one of my personal goals in life for my sons)
(Men claim that the feminist movement has led to the decline of the gentleman. I say that is BS!!! You are responsible for your own behavior whether that is good or bad. You are responsible for teaching your children to respect each other. Male, female, white, black, rainbow colored, gay or straight. Teaching your children to have respect for the rights and integrity of others is what is important.)
-that if more kids had a solid family and were taught ethics and values we’d have a lot less rude people
(Whether that family is composed of a mother and father, two mothers, two fathers, grandparents or whatever combination it is the fact that the “parents” need to give their children stability, teach them values of respect, compassion, thought, learning and self-responsibility that is important. Children would be happier and more likely to be polite.)
-food is one of the most amazing joys of life
(I love to eat, much to the chagrin of my waistline and scale)
-drama after adolescence is ridiculous and it should go elsewhere
(I believe in expressing yourself as a person when you are unhappy or happy, but have to admit that the whole “drama” scene I see played out all too often is annoying.)
-that writing and blogging keeps me sane and happy….
(Since I have found blogging I have to admit that I find I truly get anxious and miss it when I am not active. I think I have found my niche’).
Thank you Sarah for the inspiration. 😀
“You just inherited a dilapidated, crumbling-down grand mansion in the countryside. Assuming money is no issue, what do you do with it?”
I have often thought of this in my life. If I could what would I do to help people. I would fix up the home and create a shelter where people could transition from homelessness to having a home. One of the biggest issues with people who are the working homeless is that they don’t have enough money to get into an apartment, but make too much money for assistance to get into a home. The waiting lists are very long and it can take quite some time to get enough money to pay to get into an apartment. I would allow people to bring their pets and children would be allowed. There would be a large resource room for people to use computers for school and job searches.
There would have to be rules of course and admission would require that people attend workshops to learn how to handle finances, how to write resume’s and job search. There would be tutoring for GED and SAT testing. If you have alcohol, drug or anger issues you must attend counseling to deal with those issues. AA, NA, CS (Compulsive Shoppers), OE (Over-eaters Anonymous)You have to “work” to stay there. Whether it is working to find a job or working to improve yourself and your family through education and training.
I can hear people now saying that people won’t do that. Perhaps. But, for every family or person that stays and goes through the program I would probably lose two or more for various reasons. It is difficult to change and I have no problem helping people make the changes they need. But, I will not coddle them and I will not allow people to stay who won’t work on their problems. If they don’t they could just end up right back where they started. It isn’t enough to give someone a place to stay or rent for a month. They have to be taught and sometimes pushed into getting out of the cycle they are in.
But imagine if I could get even three families or people to change within a year. Imagine those people spread what they have learned to others. Imagine that in 10 years I could have helped 30 families to find their way out of their cycle of poverty and despair. Wouldn’t that be worth it?
I have thought about this post for a few days. It is a perplexing problem. I am a Genie that has been freed from my bottle. I am able to give my three wishes to anyone I wish. Who would I give them to? I have decided that I would split up my wishes. I would give one to three individuals. The wishes must be made so that they benefit mankind as a whole. I wonder who would step up to the challenge of developing a wish that would not only benefit them but all of mankind. Would they wish for world peace? Endless resources? Love and Kindness? The eradication of evil and greed? Or would no one be able to stand up and make the wish unless it specifically gives them all that they want. I think I have enough faith left in the human race to know that there are genuinely altruistic people that would come forward and create such a wish.
I love music. I love music of most any kind. There isn’t a genre that I have not found at least one song that I liked in some way. When it comes to musical instruments I prefer string instruments. A bow slides over strings, notes float in the air. Fingers strum and stroke strings to produce passion and fire. Keys of white and black press out rhythm and time, sadness and smiles. My favorite cellist of all time is Yo Yo Ma. The man is the master of his instrument. If I could play any instrument it would be the Cello. The deep evocative sounds, the timbre in it’s frame.
Add a human voice with clear pitch and melodic notes and it is even more beautiful.
Where do you do your best writing? That is the question for this particular post. I do my best writing at my desk. It took a few weeks to figure out the best place for me to put my desk and have the right “feeling” in my space. I am a big proponent of Feng Shui and the placement of furniture and colors in a room to get the best flow of energy.
I have found I need background noise, preferably noise that I don’t really want to pay attention to. I like Sponge Bob as a cartoon and occasionally watch it, but it was my primary back ground noise when I was studying for school. The inane background noise was perfect because it provided something in the background, but really didn’t inspire enough interest to take me away from studying or writing papers.
I have tried music in the background and there is some music, like Mozart, that I can study to, but for the most part I don’t seem to be able to do that. I have tried writing in cafe’s, restaurants and libraries and I have never found the ambiance I needed to spark my creativity. So, I sit at my desk and write.
I do get inspired on walks and am learning how to use my phone to record ideas that I have and conversations my characters have that I will write down later. I am still getting in the habit of that though. I have a couple of recordings that I still have not listened to.
So, my writing space is my desk, in my dining room by the sliding glass doors to the porch. I can look outside at nature and still be “involved” in the activities going on around the house. Perhaps when I finally get my mind set to write consistently I will find I need to change my location again, but for now. This works well.
“We all have strange relationships with punctuation — do you overuse exclamation marks? Do you avoid semicolons like the plague? What type of punctuation could you never live without? Tell us all about your punctuation quirks!”
I was intrigued by this question. I have to admit that I need to be really careful with using commas. They are my favorite punctuation to use and I am really trying hard to use less of them. I rarely use semicolons because I still can’t get the idea of when to use them properly. So, I would rather take a sentence and use a comma or a period. I am trying to use them more though as they do have a purpose and makes for better sentence flow and understanding.
I cannot live without the “Period”. Ha! I hate run on sentences with a passion. During the free write it drove me crazy to not stop and punctuate. I did go back and edit, but it was hard to just keep going and then go back. I do use exclamation points, but probably not as much as I should. I am good with quotation marks though!
So, I hope I answered the question well!
She dazzles with her smile as she walks into the room.
Her dress swirls out in ever widening circles and dazzles with the glistening crystals reflecting light.
He walks into the room and sees the glistening lights and crystal reflections on her skin. She dazzles in his sight.
He walks towards her and takes her hand, his smile dazzles her as he asks her to dance.
Their grace and ease displayed on the dance floor dazzles the spectators and each other in their gaze.