I was going to delete my blog Because I can….

I have not been writing enough for myself lately. No posts, just answering comments, giving my thoughts to what other people are saying. It allows me a voice, but it isn’t the same as writing for myself and telling my own stories. I have been very down on myself as of late. I have not been positive and I have not been doing what I need to do in order to become more positive. My blog is “Because I can” for a reason. A reason that I was allowing myself to forget. I was forgetting that I can. 

I read this story tonight and it has inspired me to continue with trying to write, to blog and learn. 


I am going to write a mission statement of sorts to myself. it is a reaffirmation and statement of what I believe. It is what I will continue to live by. No matter what anyone says.

What happened in my life was terrible. There are scars, there is still pain. But, I am not going to list everything that happened to me. I will not continually revisit it without purpose. When I do talk about it, I will be using my experiences to help others to find their strength. To find options and to find a way to get out of the darkness. I want to be able to show others going through similar experiences that they can come out the other side and not just survive, but be happy and survive. What has having those awful things happen to me done for me? It has taught me compassion for another. It has taught me to be non-judgmental. I will not give in to fear. I can be strong and become stronger. 

I will not give in to anger and fear. I have been allowing fear and anger of what is happening in the world, and what some people have said to me to cloud my judgement and my faith. When you  become angry and you give in to fear, it can lead to irrational thought. When you become irrational you cannot see the path. You cannot hear the truth. It blinds you to your faith. Faith leads you from fear and helps you to find the path and allows you to see more than what you think possible. 

I will be compassionate. I would prefer to err on the side of compassion and not have to worry about answering to God as to why I would turn my back on my brothers and sisters. 

I believe in the right of all people to love whom they choose. As long as they are an adult of legal age and consensual.

I believe in allowing the existence of all faiths as long as they do not interfere with the practice of another’s faith or harm another person. I have to admit that I am conflicted with this one as I do not believe that Sharia law is a humane practice and that the violence perpetrated against women in the name of honor (which is not honorable at all) gives me some issues. 

I happen to believe in the premise of the Constitution of the United States and it’s original intention. We have a great country. Even with all our problems. We the people of this country hold so much power in our hands. We can control our own destinies if we would just think, not be so reactionary and really value the freedoms that we have. We can speak, we can write, we can protest-peacefully. There are so many countries where that is not possible. 

I really believe we need a ” Celebrate Humanity Month”. This month will celebrate the diverse nature of humanity. We should have block parties and discussions and make opportunities to mend fences with our neighbors. There needs to be open discussions on race and how to improve relations between all the races that live in this country. Improved education in the schools that really stress the accomplishments of all races in the development of inventions and in the creation of this country. Our country was founded on the blood of the Native Americans, white slavery, black slavery, Asian slavery. There is no getting around that. What we can do is move past it and realize that while it matters how we got here, it matters even more where we are going. And where we end up is up to all of us. 

I believe in the right to bear arms. While it has been said that letting everyone have a gun is tantamount to creating an old west scenario, that is just not the truth. Of course there needs to be education, regulation and punishment for the breaking of the rules. Guns don’t kill people, people kill people. “If they didn’t have a gun, they wouldn’t have killed someone” is an argument I have heard before. People killed each other before there were guns, they will continue to do so with or without them. I prefer to be able to defend myself if someone threatens me or my family. 

I realize as I am typing this, there is so much I believe, so much I want to talk about in my life. Too much to write about now.

I will speak my mind, write my stories and poems, post my photographs. Yes, I am going to do that. 




Very Inspiring Blogger Award-Such wonderful support!


When I was going through the Wild Habitat at Busch Gardens in Williamsburg, VA I saw the Bald Eagles they have saved and rehabbed but can no longer fly. This particular Eagle’s story just inspired me and reminded me that even though he can no longer fly he is still beautiful and a strong image of God’s power of creation. Even though so many of us are broken and maybe we will never fly as before, we are still beautiful and purposeful creatures able to inspire with our existence.

Rules for accepting the award nomination:

  1. Thank and link the amazing person who nominated you.
  2. List the rules and display the award.
  3. Share seven facts about yourself.
  4. Nominate 15 other amazing blogs and comment on their posts to let them know they have been nominated.
  5. Optional: Proudly display the award logo on your blog and follow the blogger who nominated you.

Very Inspiring Blogger Award

Thank you to all the lovely ladies who have nominated me for this award. I was out sick for a bit and fell behind so I am going to write one post. I can’t thank those that follow me enough for their inspiration, support and wonderful stories. They help to keep me going as much as I hope I help them. Love and blessings to you all.

http://inkriched.com/2014/06/03/on-awards-and-self-indulgence. Thank you Nida for your nomination. I love reading your stories. Your creativity and insight is truly inspiring to me.

http://karunapoole.wordpress.com. Karuna, your spiritual journey is truly inspiring as well and has awakened a desire in me to explore this avenue of my life again.

http://remindyourmind.wordpress.com. Liz, I have not been able to read as much of your work as I would like and am making sure I do this. Your “About Me” section really spoke to me. Thank you so much for your nomination.

http://triumphantwings.wordpress.com. Nicole, your journey through this illness will only make your spirit stronger. And it is already a strong spirit. Thank you so much for following me and nominating me for this award.


1. I am a grandma of four wonderful children.

2. I have a wonderful and supportive husband I love.

3. I believe education, science and logic are perfectly compatible with a spiritual life.

4. I love science fiction and fantasy.

5. I wish I could have been an actress. I am putting it on my bucket list to try acting again. You are never to old to play a part-well, admittedly I might have problems playing the part of a 20 something. Nah…I will just look old for my age.

6. I love history and believe by fully accepting the past for what it was and learning from it, not living in it, we can move on to greater things.

7. I am continually working at “becoming more”.











I know there needs to be 15 and I think I have 6 to go. I will work on these some more. There are so many people that inspire me to do more. To care more, write more, photograph more. So much talent and so little time. 😀

Meredith and Merel Lamboo nominated me for a Liebster Award!!

Thank You!! Thank You!!..(takes a bow) for the wonderful nominations! Here are the questions from Merel and Meredith’s are to follow. Enjoy!

Here are the rules for those who are nominated and want to participate in the Liebster award process:

  • Post the award on your blog
  • Thank the blogger who presented the award to you and link back to their blog
  • Share 11 things about yourself
  • Answer the 11 questions given to you by the person that nominated you
  • Nominate 11 bloggers who have less than 200 followers
  • Create 11 questions for your nominees to answer
  • Notify your nominees by posting your nomination on their blog.

Merel’s Questions for me:

1. What makes you happy?

My family. they are my life. My husband can make me smile and feel loved any time of day. My children and grandchildren. No matter how naughty any of them are they can still make me smile.

2. What is worth waking you up for – in the middle of the night?

Anything important. That could mean most anything. If someone is going to take the time to wake me up then it must be important. I will wake up but be prepared to get a “REALLY!! At this time of the night!” Then I would sigh and say “Okay, What’s up?” Now if I smell smoke or the house is coming down around me I think it would be a rather rapid sequence of events.

3. What’s your favorite place?

My home. If not at home, somewhere outside.

4. If you could do anything, what would you do?

I would want to be an actress/author/writer/humanitarian/philanthropist rolled into one.

5. Do you have tattoos? Want (more of) them?

Yes I have a Trinity Knot of Ivy vines and leaves in the area between my shoulder blades. I am thinking of getting a tree of life of my back somewhere.

6. Who is your favorite person?

My husband.

7. What would you want to be in a next life?

Someone who can make a difference for good in people’s lives. There are times I feel I have been so limited in this lifetime by physical, mental and emotional issues. I would like to be able to function without any of that and still have the drive that I have in this life to make a difference.

8. How many languages do you speak?


9. Sneakers, flipflops, pumps (for the guys, the men’s equivalent of pumps: dress shoes)?

Sneakers, then flip flops or Sandals.

 10. Are you happy?

I am working hard at it. At this moment I am. I am working at stretching these “moments” into hours, then days, then weeks until I can get to a whole year of being happy.

11. What makes you tick? I mean, what makes you do what you do, be who you are, what makes you you?

I am not sure how to answer this question. Currently what makes me tick is the drive to be “better”, to be happier. To make a difference in this world that may not make me famous, but it will help others reach understanding, and feel that they are not alone in this world.

Meredith’s Questions:

1. What is your dream job and why?

Being an Actress. I have always wanted to do acting or performing. I was told as a child that I was too dramatic and emotional. A teacher that worked for a theater in town wanted to help get a scholarship to an acting school. But, my mother said no. Frankly I think it was a combination of jealousy and she didn’t want to lose her live in babysitter. An Actress gets to play other people and portray the emotions of written words. They get to connect with people in intimate and deep ways in the portrayal of their characters.

2. What was your favorite author when you were in school?

Edgar Allan Poe. Without a doubt his Annabell Lee was my favorite all time poem.

3. Has life ever taken you in a different direction than you planned and what were the results?

Yes. I thought I would be working in medicine as a clinic manager and may have even gone to Physician’s Assistant School. But, my health issues have kept me from that path. The result is now I am trying to find new paths for myself and am developing my writing and other skills and education that will help me in working with Nonprofit organizations.

4. You are on deserted on a desert island. What 3 things would you want?

An MP3 player that works on a solar battery. A Glass bottle. A hatchet. I can create shelter from trees and palms. I can eat coconuts and can make a spear or trap with the hatchet. The glass bottle can hold water and I can use the glass to magnify light to start a fire.

5. Are you a foodie, or do you eat to live? Tell us your favorite meal.

A foodie. For sure. Olive Garden’s Steak Gorgonzola with Tiramisu for dessert.

6. Are you an up-and-at-’em kind of person, or do you burn the midnight oil?

I am definitely a drag myself out of bed. Slap myself around to wake up and drag myself around for half the morning. I have always been a burn the midnight oil kind of person. Especially with studying for school.

7. Do you believe little white lies are ok? In what circumstances?

In general I say no. But, then I thought there are times when a little white lie helps more than hurts. When I was working in healthcare there was a patient who we knew was dying. The family did not want them to know that there was nothing else to be done. So, while taking care of the patient they asked me if they were dying. I sat by them and held their hand and talked with them for a bit and said “No, not today.” I wasn’t sure that wasn’t a lie. But, they seemed calmer. I think they already knew, but they appreciated the little white lie. They passed in their sleep later that night. Times like those are when I think it is okay.

8. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be? Why?

If I could tolerate the cold, it would be Alaska. The wilderness, the beauty of the area. If I knew I could do it I would live out in the woods, closer to nature and learning how to survive without all the “extras” of civilized life. But, I know at this time in my life it would only make my physical issues worse.

9. What is the riskiest thing you’ve ever done?

Free Climbed Cliffs.

10. What talent would you like to have?

I can sing, but I would really like to be able to really sing. Like Sara Brightman or Adele type of singing. Both of those singers have vastly different vocal styles, but each one can evoke such emotion in me when they sing.

11. Are you an urbanite, suburbanite, country gentry?

Country. I prefer living out in the country or in small towns and villages than to living in a city or large town for sure.

My eleven questions:

1. If you could go into the past or future which would you choose, why?

2. If you could go back into the past or the future when would you go, why?

3. What is your favorite piece of clothing and why?

4. What is your favorite book and why?

5. What is your favorite movie and why?

6. What is your least favorite household chore?

7. If you could change jobs, what job would you want instead?

8. What would be your dream car?

9. What is the one charity you would give all your money to?

10. What is the one thing you want to do with your life?

11. What makes you happy?

These are my nominees:







I know this isn’t 11 blogs, but will look for more to nominate later. I also wanted people to be sure they look for widgets letting people know their blog is an “Award free zone” essentially. I missed a couple. I think this is a good exercise though and really gets people to look for and meet new people and new ideas.




Staying positive

It has been a difficult week to stay positive this week. I keep trying to remind myself of positive aspects of my life. When you create a blog called “Because you can..” I feel that you need to try to keep a positive tone. That is one of the primary reasons I created the blog was to help myself to create a positive feel and increase positive thinking in my life. It has helped a great deal. It has just been harder this week because the fibromyalgia and the pain I feel has been so intense. But, I have continued to be active, I have continued to try and watch what I eat. (Except for tonight I have to admit, but back on the wagon tomorrow)I got my husband to actually clean the closet. That was a task that needed done for awhile. I wanted to give away my size 14/16 clothes, but my husband and I talked and he said that I would do it. I can do it. It will take work and it will take effort. Effort I sometimes feel I don’t have to give. A 15 minute walk is better than no walk. That trying to do the whole 2 mile course is just as important as completing it some days. 

I just want people out there who read my blog to know that I understand there are down days and there are days that you don’t want to try or days that you don’t want to try. But, even if it is something as simple as opening the door and taking some deep breaths. That is something. It is because you can. It is because you can reach for that final thread and hold tight with all your might and then keep finding the threads and holding on and weaving them back into a thin rope, then a thicker rope. It can happen. A good thought, a calming thought, a thought of because I can do this will enter your mind and hopefully make you feel better. 

A difficult day today

I was wondering how many people start out with such enthusiasm and within hours find it hard to want to put your fingers to the keyboard. I hadn’t even realized that I had not finished this. I am procrastinating doing what I should be doing. Which is making a schedule of my day to allow for working on each thing I want to accomplish. My writing, my co-writing, posting in my RPG group’s stories. I just started school again too to get my Six Sigma and Project Management Certification. You would think that I would just sit down and do it. But, I have to admit that there is a part of me that wants to be childish and stamp my feet and say I don’t want to.

Okay, but then what do I want? Do I want to just sit and do nothing? Do I want to vegetate and allow my mind to dissolve into jello as I watch the television? I don’t think so. Getting up and moving is what I need to do. Both physically and mentally. It is too easy to give up and so much more rewarding when you don’t. Even if the successes are small, they are at least successes and movement forward.